Letting Go

What does it mean to let go? Why is it hard?

When we are faced with circumstances outside of our control, it may feel like an impossibility to let go.

The paradox? Letting go is exactly what we must "do".

I have learned it's okay to desire something! It's healthy and natural. 

However, we create unnecessary suffering when things don't go as planned... and we keep holding on to what "was". When we do this, we become rigid and can become blind to what is supposed to be for us. 

When we micromanage and/or try to control outcomes, which many of us do by forcing and resisting, we close off infinite possibilities that may be even better than what we are asking for. Reread that.

One of the ways I "trick" my mind into letting go is by asking myself the below 3 questions.

Since inner peace is a way of being many of us want to experience, this exercise works quite well.

1. Do I wish to experience inner peace or conflict?
Inner peace, of course!

Note: Some of us still like being in conflict...it provides a distraction of sorts and gives us an excuse not to take responsibility for what is and/ or our present life situation. Some of us are in conflict and don't even know it. All have been true for me. It's part of the human condition. It's up to us to be aware and then make the choice again and again to accept what is. 

Once we do accept,  all the energy we were using to "resist" is freed up and we are able think clearly and choose a better way.

2. What am I willing to do in order to experience inner peace?
Take action. Nothing happens without taking action. Be open to trying things that support a peaceful way of living. There are many things/ tools we can do/ use: books, meditation, a mentor,  soul work, prayer, workshops, podcasts... I do all of this and then some :) 

The point is, I am willing to take action and do what it takes to live a peaceful life. 
Over time, we may need more or less of these things/ tools based on what we are facing in life. More stressful times = more support. Make sense?

3. Who must I become to experience inner peace?
Become a student of inner peace. Know thyself. Use the tools above.

Today, right now, begin to practice: acceptance, non-judgment, non-attachment, presence, compassion... and the big one - forgiveness. 

EXTRA CREDIT:
ENJOY the process... yes, all of it. I am always surprised at how quickly my inner state (and therefore my mind) can shift when I am willing to enjoy life. I become re-energized, enthusiastic, and see opportunity everywhere!

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